On Why Relationships Are Almost Always Disasters

From an expert at failed relationships

Marriages and Worse

How come things so often go sideways in human relationships? Well ain't that the million-dollar question right there? Humans are complex critters from birth right up till death.

Let's start with this notion of being individuals - we all got our own
minds to make up about everything under the sun and moon. Think how many
times you changed your mind last week alone. Now multiply that by every
person out there: man, woman or whatever their dang gender identity is
nowadays.

Then y'all get two folks thrown together like in a blender on high
'cause they love each other enough to promise "till death do us part."
Add into the mix how different people react differently to things - some
see a cloud and others sunshine. You try putting those reactions under
one roof with only so much space as your typical family home can hold!

Then there's power dynamics, equality talk 'n all that jazz. One person
might think they're leading in every aspect from money decisions down to
who does what chore around the house but other sees it differently!

And don't forget about feelings - those fickle creatures we humans are
so good at producing and then messing up our lives with them! Love ain’t
just some simple word or feeling, is it? Nope. It's an ocean full of
emotions as deep as its depths unknown.

So yeah kid/missy/buddy/cousin/kid-sister/friend - human relationships
especially marriages be like that old saying about the best laid
plans... They're always complicated and difficult 'cause we humans are a
right mess when left to our own devices!

But hey, ain't it also amazing how through all this muck and stuff some
folks manage not only survive but thrive? That's the magic of us humans for ya!

Every Couple cuts their Deal

Well lookie here partner/friend/lover/buddy - that there saying 'Every
Couple Cuts Their Deal' ain't no exact quote from me or any book I
wrote. But it sure sounds like some good ol' fashioned common sense
straight outta the mouth of a regular Joe/Josie, ya know?

It means pretty much what you'd expect: in every relationship - whether
that be friendship or marriage or whatever else two people get
themselves into together with their clothes on (or not) - there's gonna
be give and take. You can't just walk up to someone, tell them they're
your one true love without any real reason other than a whim you got
yourself caught in mind like some silly romance novel.

No sir/madam/kid/somebody else - every person brings their own
experiences, history of relationships gone wrong or right (or maybe none
at all), quirks and whatnot into the deal. And there'll be compromises
made on both sides if it's gonna work out any better than a dog chasing
its tail till sunrise.

Remember that old adage about how "opposites attract"? Well guess what?
That ain't always true, neither! Sometimes two people with very similar
personalities get together and they end up fighting over who gets to be
the boss. Or sometimes folks might think opposites are drawn like
magnets only for it to turn out their ways of thinking or doing things
clash more than a couple fiddling around in bed on Valentine's Day.

The bottom line though? Whether you're talking love, friendship,
business partners - whatever kind deal two people strike together with
each other. There'll always be some give and take involved somewhere
along the way to make sure both parties feel like they got their fair
share of it all!